I think that's a very appropriate way to ask the question. However, the context is really key, for me. If I had raised the issue of sexuality or body image or something similar, I could see my male T asking these questions. Although he has never asked me more than one question about anything, I think, before I'm off and running. I've never answered an inventory of questions about anything (like a list of standard questions) like you do at the doctor's office at the beginning of therapy by any of my therapists. If I got asked a slew of questions in the beginning of therapy about anything, I'd think twice before going back. I don't need to be inventoried about anything. If I got asked a bunch of questions about sex in the beginning of therapy outside of me raising the issue, I'd think the T is trolling for sexually vulnerable clients. Probably unfair assumption, but that would make me suspicious, and definitely uncomfortable. I would hope I would ask why he was asking these questions, and the way he answered this question might determine for me what's really going on. I would hope I would also say I was uncomfortable, and I would expect him to react in a reassuring and empathic way. If he didn't, I'd hightail it outta there.

Anne