I am coming to understand that bipolarism requires strategies specific to the problems that come with it. I like porcupine's idea of the "sign" over the phone.

I think so, too, Rose. That's why I'm hopeful that the Dialectical Behavioral Therapy approach will be helpful. (The workbook (same title plus Workbook for Bipolar Disorder) by Sheri last name I've forgotten) is available from amazon.com or your local independent bookseller.) I'm on the waiting list to see a therapist in my area who uses DBT in groups (I think).