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From the male T's, having a positive relationship with them has helped me see men as individual people, not just abusers and as the violent perpetrators of the world.
I agree with this completely. I really wanted a male therapist this time around, because I have NEVER had a positive male role in my life. EVER. It would be nice to know that not all men are cheating abusers. I have never been in a relationship period, because I fear men so much. Due to my upbringing. I had good times with my last therapist, despite the awkward question. But our last year together was all boundary crossing issues on his part and it turned out horrible.
I didn't state it as a rule. "I believe" means an opinion last time I checked. I don't have to validate it to anyone.
Wingin' it. As the OP I didn't take offense to the statement. You made it pretty clear that it was personal issues on your part, that made you think like that. You don't have to justify your personal reasonings on this thread. Personal reasonings, are well personal.
Wingin' it, when you state an opinion as thought it should be a rule that applies to all of us -- "I believe that women should only see a female therapist" -- you need to be prepared to back it up with solid reasons why you believe this. Of course you are entitled to your opinion, but when you express it as an arbitrary rule that should apply to everyone, it comes across as a bit dictatorial.
I think her wording was off, but I don't think she meant it the way we're taking it. Sometimes people just mess up communication. I, as one of those people, understand. She did make it pretty clear it was for personal reasonings. Maybe she had a bad stint with a male therapist or really anything. I don't think she should have to tell us about that.
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