OK ... I've let this go on for too long now.
I have been married to this man for 20 years, known him since the 70's.
I love him or at least I did love him ... not so sure anymore now.
See, he doesnt acknowlege me ... there are no hugs, no comments that imply affection. I need some sort of acknowlegement of affection and have told him several times.
If I make dinner and its good there is never a comment ... he eats - he leaves the table and the room for me to clean up .. all the time.
Yet he has loads of time and is willing to help for anyone else. He laughs at everything and treats me like I dont have a brain in my head. I used to think I was just imagining all this, but some acquaintances have mentioned it to me lately and I don't know what to do about it anymore
Any suggestions, whether its about the weather or buying groceries or gardening which I certainly do know alot about, is met with a negative response. Almost as if he has to one-up me every single time. At first I just shrugged it off but now, it's really getting to me. Im so depressed and find myself crying all the time ... I guess its a way to release the pent up killer tension in me ... I dont know anymore. He has not said a nice thing to me in years and I am now at my witts end.
This my 3rd marriage and I was determined to make a go of it no matter what ... but this is a bit much now. First marriage was to a man who liked to hit and punch - second was to a drug and boozed up person ... not my scene. Now, this ... I call myself the insignificant other for these reasons.