thanks elaine and dottie. I will probably follow your advice elaine. Right now I'm still numb from having this small epiphany about my H. This morning we are driving 3 hours up the road to visit my daughter (yes, MY daughter since I had more to do with her birth than he did) at college. The drive there and back should be very interesting. We'll see.

Thanks again you guys for listening. I just had to rant a little while.