I understand where you are coming from. However I have had very good male therapists (I am female) that have helped me a lot. Even helped me about my r*pe and guilt over masturbation. It all really boils down to how much you trust the therapist to tell that kind of information to. Therapists are very well trained to handle sexual issues, even with the opposite sex. It's understandable that clients who need to talk about sexual things usually feel more comfortable with the same sex. Just that talking about it to opposite sex can be just as therapeutic in the right kind of client/therapist setting.