Hey, GladeGal, parents can drive us to our graves if we let them. Some really would become our children except that we can't make them do anything.

The two members ahead of me give sage advice. I concur. dijmart I've been following for a while & have had a chance to put some of that wise thought to use; AAAAA is a new mentor I'll be watching. I really hope you can find some peace, let your mom make her decisions & accept them, let her go with love & self-forgiveness, & bring self care to your own life. You deserve it. It's time.

Let the rest of your family live their lives as they choose to live them. You are all separate adults now--you neither owe each other, nor own each other. You are free to love each other though, freely, without bonds.

Bless you. And bless your mom. Bless all moms. I think they do their best, even when that's not so good...