Hey, Junerain,

I might disagree with some of the previous posts. It is also my own personal experience that people sometimes react aggressively to character traits that should be in fact liked by them (common sense you say).

I have had the experience to people close to me being in rage and saying hurtful thing to me because they were angry about me being such an idealist and I have had people close to me and strangers acting not so kind when I was depressed.

Now, I think that what people react to a trait in someone else that is not negative in principle, they act out something that is their own and is problematic.

I do believe that some people get annoyed by goodness and kindness and naivete. That might be their reaction to living in a world where competition and stress are the leading components of life. If they, at some point of their life, had learned a lesson that you should not be naive, too good or kind if you want to succeed, then it is very hard for them to watch someone being all those things and showing them off. Why? My theory is because that way you question the rules of the game they are playing - they have given up on kind and naive to become successful and competitive (or simply to fit in), then you go there and start being good and nice to everybody. That might be disturbing because they get confused whether their rules are the right ones. That's just a theory.

But, basically, every time you get a strong negative reaction to something good you've done or said - remember that this is the reaction of the people towards something very painful or touchy withing themselves. People never react to thing too strongly if they don't take them personally. So, sometimes the pain you receive from other people is not really meant to hurt you - it is just a reaction to something that they associate with you and your attitude. Remember - when people are rude, it's not you who are the problem or have a problem - they do have a problem with the way they react to things. Try to learn to set boundaries so you can show people they can't treat you like that try not to let it affect you too much. It might help to talk to them, but if it doesn't just move on. We can very rarely have some limited control over other people's behaviour but we can control how much it will disturb and hurt us.