we are only going to drive ourselves mad if we focus on how much BP has taken from us. Its a fact, we can only feel as good as the thoughts that we have. the more good thoughts you are having the better you are going to feel about yourself. the better you feel, the more positive actions you are going to be able to take. so the more you do these activities in your community, the better you will feel and eventually you will probably find yourself coming home and taking steps to improve the quality of life in your home to match the feelings inside yourself. it may take time, but eventually it will happen. im finding i like things less cluttered, but there is no way i can tackle the clutter in my home all at once. but i can go thru all the old mail. i can get rid of garbage nick knacks vs real keepsakes at another time. donate purses i dont really need from the ones i really have a use for. same goes for shoes at another time. eventually my clutter will be managable and i will feel better about my home and less of a BP failure.