Sorry to hear that Sheba, but I know where you stand with relationships. I was horribly obsessive when my ex would go out with her (mostly male) friends. It was so bad that I called her 79 times in the span of 10 minutes (because she wasn't answering) and just paced the house and couldn't sleep. I said some really mean texts to her and just kind of "blew up" over it....

Notice I said that I was obsessive with my EX. We were married for five years and just started the divorce process. Just like BlackPup said, nobody is perfect, and yes, us guys are dogs (to put it nicely) and often show no regard to a woman's feelings and will lie to get out of a sticky situation, but obsessing over it and checking phone bills and e-mails is just going to make you feel worse, even if it "confirms" what you expect.....Your best bet would be to talk to a psychologist and get some therapy, even with your other half if he's willing to go with you.

Hope this helps!

Jeremy