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AAAAA · Oct 09, 2011, 01:42 PM

Thanks (((Lynn))). I really appreciate that.

Lad007 – Oh how I wish that were true. This woman has been an issue long before I started working there. In the last 30 days alone there have been two other serious issues with other employees. Our GM is fully aware of this issue and how much this negativity shuts down the productivity in the store. In fact she pulled the same crap with another employee DURING our corporate audit a couple of weeks ago. Our GM lost it then. I was not there for that situation, I had already left for the day. But our GM was “going to take care of that problem”. Same employee, same behavior with a third employee, a week later. So it is apparent that her behavior will not change. GM views it as a failure if an employee does not work out. And this woman has worked there longer than the GM. To my knowledge her behavior is not any worse than it’s ever been, she just doesn’t get it. Frankly I have no idea why she’s still there. She is ok at her job, not great but adequate, some jobs she does very well but she does not like them. BUT she gets calls or visits non-stop from her husband and kids. It’s like she’s visiting her neighbor not working.

I now have several issues. I have made a fool of myself. And there is the fact that I work because I need the money. I have to face these people and these customers again. I know my co-workers understand the situation, each one of the has taken a turn in the spot I am in now. AND how do I avoid this happening again? I do not like being angry, I do not enjoy drama. The GM will sit us down and try to make it work it out between ourselves. This has not been successful in the past.

Don’t get me wrong, I can be a bitter pill to swallow. I do not attend any of the store’s parties or outings. A few people there think I am a snob because of it. I have tried to explain that I do not enjoy those types of activities. I’ve even told them I have social anxiety. I like rules. I like structure. I take my job seriously. I see the way I perform my job as being a reflection on me as a person. When I am scheduled to be there at 8, I am there, ready to work at 8, not 8:10. A few of my co-workers find this annoying. This particular employee thinks I do things this way as a personal insult to her. She thinks I am out to steal her job. She has her job, she chooses to work 4 days a week instead of 5.

As I sit here reflecting, I realize that she has taken it to a more personal level with me. Her daughter has a son with my neighbor. Now I’ve mentioned that I’m antisocial, but I have lived in this house for 15 years and could barely pick my neighbors out of a line up. A year ago she says to me “my grandson is living next door to you, you have to be nice to him. He says there is a mean lady living next to dad.” I called over to another co-worker who is married to my neighbor’s brother and lived in that house and said “X, how long did you live next to me?” Seven years. “In those seven years, how many times did I speak to you?” Never. “How many times did you even see me?” Maybe twice, the second time may have been your mother. I worked nights, what can I say?

Then last fall we got a Rottweiler. She’s actually a fan of the breed so we actually had something to talk about. She approached me a couple of months ago and says “my daughter wants me to talk to you about your mean dog. You have a mean dog!” What? Our dogs are house dogs. They go out in a dog run in my back yard do their business and come back inside. What makes you think my dog is mean? So I ask X “has your brother-in-law ever mentioned anything about my dogs being mean? Are they bothering them? How?” and I explain what I was told. X talks to her BIL, who in turn apparently says something to his baby mama. Before X relays how my dogs are bothering my neighbors my co-worker comes back and says “Hey, I did not say your dog was bothering Xs BIL, I said your dog was mean. My daughter is friends with people that live across the road down the street and they say your dog is mean.” I say “well this is getting ridiculous, this is fourth hand information. I don’t even know those people and they’ve never had ANY interaction with her. If they have an issue they can call the police (who are closer to my house than these neighbors). My dog has her shots, and is licensed. She’s never gotten loose, she doesn’t even like going for rides in the car. If those people have even laid eyes on my dog it is when we are walking her.

A couple of months ago she comes all up in my face about my “friend”. I don’t know who you’re talking about. The woman she was talking about has a son that is my eldest son’s best friend. I haven’t even seen this woman since the boys were old enough to drive for themselves some 8 years ago. The extent of our conversations before that was “what time do you want him back?” Anyway this woman apparently heard some gossip about my co-worker and in my co-worker’s mind she got that gossip from me. I said I have explained this to you before, our sons are friends, I do not even know this woman’s first name. She is Mrs. Such and Such. If she heard something about you it did not come from me! I could not even pick this woman out of a line up.

So frustrating. I just have to figure a way to ground myself!