We are the neuropathways that our genes & our envorinment created in our thinking.....however, neuropathways can be changed. People who have had a stroke or a person who has had a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) can learn to talk & walk all over again. We can learn a new language if we were to move to a foreign country. These neuropathways are the same one that make us who we are....

Therefore, if those neuropathways can be redeveloped, then so can the "who we are" neuropathways....at least the ones that are causing of problems in our life......we can learn new skills to make our life better.....we learn new things & ways of handling things & we practice the thinking that is involved with it & with practice it then becomes the "NEW WHO WE ARE". This implies that there is a mentor or T or DBT group or something out there in our lives that can introduce those new ways of thinking & acting into our life so that we can learn how to apply them in appropriate ways.

Yes, our personalities can have the things that don't work & don't interface well with others change....it takes time, it takes being aware, & it takes PRACTICE with those different ways of thinking.

So NO, we do not have to be stuck with the "I am who I am who I am"....but we have to be made aware of what those character defects are & be provided ourselves with an alternate who to practice replacing the previous who with". It's a long process & has to be something YOU WANT TO DO......but yes, it's definitely possible.