All I can say is that he is a binge alcoholic and even though you love him, it is a hard life. My husband was the same and it took a lot out of me. That anger toward you while he is drinking? Thats guilt and thats because he does feel guilty when he drinks he knows you don't like it. However some men are mean when they drink. He treats you daughter like his own? Whoa, make sure he is not too close and your not missing something there.

He has to want to seriously change his life and stay sober and he must attend meeting and just to let you know, in case you don't know already, there is such a thing as dry drunk and even when they are sober they can get that attitude off and on and guess who is on the receiving end, right, YOU.

So you have a lot to think about, YOU have to take care of YOU and not become a codependant.
Open Eyes