Your not who you think you are, is what I found. I'd tsken in other peoples sickness and made it "me", I begun to view the world in certain ways because of this, thinking "this is who I am", all this is a defence against the pain of finding out the emotional abandoments I expereinced that prevented me becoming who I could be. My B/w thinking is changing now, my persaonal prejudices and beliefs I thought were mine are falling away.