I do admire your ability to ask for what you need. I'm not sure that I could do it, or that I necessarily do it in smaller ways in any meaningful. I treasure my self-sufficiency and it would be most difficult to break from that and ask for help.

A milder form of breaking with self sufficiency is feeling okay with accepting what others offer me, or even accepting per se. This is something I have only recently been able to do, and it has been a little bit revolutionary. I have noticed a corresponding shift in accepting myself, being kinder and more caretaking of myself, as I have allowed others to give me something. It has been a gift.

I hope for you that your willingness to make this kind of change has positive side effects for you, ygrec.

Anne