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Originally Posted by lost in termination
T had always said the goal in therapy is to limit the control others have over me.
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This doesn't sound like a happy goal to me. It sounds like a negative goal, not a positive goal. Maybe it's T's own goal? And personally, I HATE that last-day touch or hug, HATE IT!!! All of a sudden you think you know me? Now I'm supposed to know you? NOW you want to touch me??? That's how crazy it makes me. That's why I told THIS T to hug me as soon as I walked in the door. Lucky for me, he was hugging his previous patient as he was leaving - a 7 yr old boy. I said, "I hope you don't discriminate on the basis on age or gender - I want a hug too!" Gotcha! Maybe go back to someone else for short term therapy? A hugger this time? Someone more joyful, more generous. You have it in YOU - I feel you need it reciprocated to get it out there more, to learn to give it to the right people so you get more back. Not just giving to takers (who control you by withholding?).