Butterflies: I don't remember my Mom holding my hand or feeling comforted in the same way by her. I'm glad you have a T who will hold your hand and your reminded of your own mother.

Sannah: I watched the video and found it interesting. I can't imagine my Mom being unresponsive to me. She was always there for me, and I was wanted and loved. Maybe they let me cry in the incubator. Or maybe I didn't take in my mother's love. I don't know. There's GOT to be a reason I'm so needy and that it feels like from preverbal times!! And that holding my T's hand satisfies me so very much.

stopdog: I used to back away from hugs because I didn't grow up with them. My women friends hugged and I didn't want any part of it. I was afraid of physical affection. This is the first T who has allowed touch, and I'm finding it is something I crave.

purple_fins: Yes, we're each different! I feel that my T and are the SAME when we hold hands. We're equal, though I know it doesn't feel the same to her. I can't explain it; I can just FEEL it and it's peaceful, like the way I feel when I'm by a lake or in the water.