So what is it that you are not telling them? What are you holding back? You must have noticed the big difference in the way a member here has changed the way they write over this weekend, from hiding behind long sentences to sharing WORDS. That was an incredible breakthrough. What is your breakthrough? Why do you call your T's strangers? That's kind of hostile, isn't it? Will Rogers said strangers were just friends he hadn't met yet. Yet you use the term as if you expect us to think it's negative too.
What would happen if you stopped debating every point? This sounds to me like my "habit" of correcting pronounciation - which we recently analyzed as, if you can't talk right, how can you take care of me? So who is gonna take care of me? Obviously I have to take care of myself. And that provokes a lot of anxiety. Hence your feeling of being tortured. So stop rationalizing about how it wasn't so bad - it wasn't so bad for me, either - and tell the ONE thing that still makes you uncomfortable - again, for me it was "having" to answer phone calls from my mother. I finally realized how afraid I was of her - as a child. And still am. There is no other relationship between us. Your debating every point makes you kind of scary, just as my correcting people does (I am also a debater, just nobody talks to me anymore!) - so are you scared too? You know I am asking you these questions because I hate hearing that all your T had to say was "Oh, that's resistance." I wish you had someone more intuitive, more warm and loving.