Thank you for asking! Yes, I am aware (to the extent that any of us is..who has done a lot of mindfulness and training around that...it has taken YEARS! ) I know that I rely really heavily on humor and altruism (worked many years in a cause-based world saving everyone else ) but I wish that my T and I could have talked very directly about why I rely so heavily on these things instead of more self-care (which I am doing now..I have huge resistance to even allowing myself to have a bubble bath --no time -- or a massage --no money). I would love to have processed with a T what my defenses are, and to talk about my family of origin issues with regard to defenses (my mother is in huge denial about my brother's mental illness, for example). i think this is an inspiring place for me to go, and I thank you for bringing this to my attention. I've got some reading to do (while in bubble bath!).