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Originally Posted by rainbow8
But I agree that I missed something because she was so anxious. I think it's the calm, peace, SAFETY I missed. Also, we weren't a demonstrative family, so love was expressed more by concern and action than by exchange of feelings. I usually hid my feelings from my parents. I didn't confide in my Mom. I didn't know how, or I didn't want to worry her, or I was just too shy.
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Her anxiety could have interfered with you getting what you really needed.
When you write that love was expressed by concern and then you mix this with anxiety.......... it could be an outcome that isn't pleasant.
Of course your mom loved you, this doesn't mean that she was capable of meeting your needs though.
If you hid your feelings from your parents this says a lot. To me it says that you couldn't show what your needs were. How could your needs have been met if you were hiding your feelings? Maybe you hid your feelings because this was how you got a better outcome?