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Old Oct 10, 2011, 12:42 PM
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Originally Posted by pachyderm View Post
All those words describe not factual character traits, but emotional reactions to them. Instead of someone admitting to themselves that they feel uncomfortable when they see a certain behavior by you, they say you are "selfish" or "lazy" or... Then, of course, you internalize that judgement made by them...
I think I need to disagree. Sure, there are situations in which people are told they are certain things and it's not true. So, yeah, that happens.

I'm talking about self-realized, self-acknowledged character weaknesses. And of course, there IS an emotional reaction to them also, in my case. But the emotional reaction is NOT the flaw.