My husband had a rough childhood. His father cheated on his mother, and abused her in every possible way. My husband saw and heard it all. He is the eldest of two boys so he thought it was his responsibility to protect his younger brother and his mother. He now has what we think is PTSD. He doesn't want to talk to a therapist. He says it's useless because he will always carry it with him. He has nightmares and he is very withdrawn. He's not social, except with very close family and a few friends. I don't know how or what I can do to help. I don't want to divorce him because I took a vow and I love him but how can we get through this when he doesn't want to get help? We've been married almost 10 years and I still don't know what exactly what happened in his childhood. I don't know what to do anymore. Please help....