Ygrec, i dont really look at gender issues the same. I was horribly abused by my mom and she was more brutal than any man. I look at people as human beings. I'm not saying call cops on your wife if youre not comfortable, but dont think you are suffering lesd necause of your wife' s body strength or youre a man. Its demeaning and sad to be mistreated. And you are only being kind.