Preacher: I didn't feel safe because she worried a lot and made me anxious. I don't see a conflict. She loved me very much and was overprotective. I felt loved but not safe as in feeling that the world was safe. She didn't then, meet my need to be independent. That I know. But I also didn't feel comfortable telling her physical stuff that I thought was wrong with me. I suppose I didn't want to "upset the apple cart" and was scared. I never thought she wouldn't LOVE me if I confided in her. Those are the kinds of needs I'm talking about. I can tell my T anything, but those same concerns I never told my Mom.

So, can't a mother love her child but the child still feels afraid to tell her things that happened to her or things she's worried about? That was my situation. I wasn't afraid of my mother or father hurting me.

Sannah, the above is as much as I understand about it. I was embarrassed or ashamed to ask or tell my mother about some stuff I think, like I said, because she would worry too much. I suppose a child or teenager shouldn't have to protect her/his mother. Or I was protecting myself too. I didn't know how to talk about my body. Too ashamed. I also didn't want to talk about social issues and school problems.

SarahMichelle: Yes, I agree!! Holding hands with T is great!

VH: I'm not sure I understand about energy work, but it's probably a factor. The connection feels vibrant/alive/meaningful to me.