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Oct 11, 2011, 01:39 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi ! It sounds like your poor husband was really affected by the goings on at home. I can understand, as I saw alot of the same thing, and I too felt I had to "protect" my little sister.
Let your husband know that he doesn't HAVE to carry this around for the rest of his life -- that a therapist CAN help you learn to let go, and bury the past. Perhaps he feels guilty that he couldn't do more for his mother & brother -- but it was not his responsibility! He doesn't have to suffer like this forever. I went to therapy and learned how to get thru the past and how to put it to rest.
Perhaps if you suggested JOINT counseling, he might be more apt to go. It's worth a try. I wish I had more advice, but it's very difficult when one refuses help when he really needs it.
Best of luck & God bless. Keep us posted on what happens, ok? Hugs, Lee 
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