What we think is totally up to us; no, the original thoughts that come into our heads aren't something we decide but where they "go" or where we go with them, is.

Why think you don't have it all together and mess up a lot? Is that the only way of thinking about things; in terms of whether you're together or not? What if things just are, are neither together nor not together?

Think about 5 random items. You and I would try to "organize" them, wouldn't we :-) make sense of them? Why? Yes, if we want, clouds can relate to toilet paper, can both be "soft" but think about it; are they really related? No, they're just clouds and toilet paper.

I'm an anxious sort and want things to be organized, want to know what I have in front of me, how I can "use" it or how it might help/hurt me. My husband says I don't appear to have an "I-don't-know" bucket to put things in.

If other people don't see you as messing up a lot, why see yourself that way? What does it help for you? Making mistakes is necessary as we can't see a whole picture or learn anything new without it not being "right" in the first place. But not all things that aren't "right" are ours to fix or even need to be fixed. Think about sunsets or sunrises and how many different ones there are and which you prefer. Would you "fix" sunsets you don't prefer? "Hey, there's not enough pink and purple in this one and we need more streakiness!"

Next time you go to apologize and belittle yourself, tell yourself instead that you are disappointed that you didn't put in enough pink and purple. Maybe that will make you smile and relax about what it is you think you did/did not do enough of, "right".