I know what you are going through my husband had a rough background as well. He developed PTSD on top of his Bi-polar and Depression. We had it rough because he wasn't on any meds and wasn't in counseling. He would have violent and angry mood swings and not remember what happened. Course I loved him and I didn't leave because I knew it was mental illness and anger issues he had. I eventually had to kick him out for him to realize he needs the help and we couldn't do this anymore. He has been in counseling and on meds for over 4 yrs but hasn't had a episode in 2-3 yrs. I am hoping you don't have to go to that extreme but maybe talk to your T and see what they suggest and also you can try to suggest joint therapy but becareful with this because he can transfer blame on to you. My husband did and thats why I finally took myself out of his sessions because he was blaming me for things that I had no control over. Sorry for the long post but just wanted to share I know what you are going through and if ya ever need any help PM me. BTW I have been married 10 yrs.