Ygrec - I see from your posts in this thread you're a good man. I agree woman on man violence isn't seen the same but some women can do damage. One thing I would be concerned about is - what if you became ill and wheelchair bound but still well enough to be at home - I would worry you would really be at a disadvantage for abuse.

Speak to her Pdoc and be honest that she loses control and hits which is spurred by the alcohol. I think the alcohol is the main problem here and she needs to get into a treatment program. She also needs to realize hitting doesn't solve anything. You can also at least hold her arms so she can't hit you.