I came up with my own approach while in therapy. I'm more of a doer. Maybe you don't feel empowered in therapy? This is important I think to feel empowered and I think it is an important goal.

Does the therapist know that you fear that she can "kill you"?

When we are children our lives are in the hands of our parents. Our survival depends on them. Did you fear for your survival when you were young? If so maybe this is transference being triggered up?