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i am sorr this is happening to you - there have been some very good responces here - one i dont thinki saw a response to was drawing her into a hug when she attacks you - pin her arms and hold her till the violence subsides.

Talking when she's sober is also a good idea, does she remember she does these things? Is she ok the rest of the time - I wish i was there to give you a hug you are a really nice guy and there arnt many left lol but you DONT deserve to be hit - whether she hurts you or not - it is disrespectful and hurtful and sad ....

Communicate about this if you can

Im wondering what culture she comes from? would this have happened wiht her parents do you think? a learned response?

to me and Just my opinion, it seems like frustration to me - when you drink barriers of self control are lowered and sometimes frustration comes to the front - there is a sound of a child in there - sigh I recognise the child in me that WANTS things - and gets angry when they cant get them (for me its getting past this stupid PTSD crap lol ) for her it sounds like the role models have changed and she doesnt know what to make of them now - again just my opinion.

I dont know much about Alzheimers meds - but any meds is not good wiht alcohol - does her Neuro knowshe is using alcohol and I say using cos it sounds like she is using it as a drug not as a relaxant..... maybe im wrong....

Have you tried shouting really loud STOP! it may shock her into stopping -

agian just a thought

if it is the alzheimers a brain scan will prove it - if she has had one ask to see it - there will be definitive proof there

there are meds for aggression that are actually for other things - that we use in brain injury - that may help - if the aggression is due to the illness - speak to the neurologist sooner rather than later my friend - you said that with men it can escalate - it can also escalate wiht women - and she needs to know this is not acceptable

you have said you love her and wont leave her - that is wonderful - but YOU have the right to not be abused my friend and this is abuse - dont doubt it - can yu substitute what she drinks for a non alcoholic equivelant? non alcoholic wine looks and smells and tastes like the real stuff but doesnt have the alcohol in - just an example - mayb add water to her drinks - I have doen that with my sister - or thrown half her glass away - she is usually too drunk to realise anyway -or tipsy....

talkingto her pdoc andT sounds good - are they in touch wiht her neurologist? it would be good if they were all in the loop.

please let us know how you are going - and try the hug thing it sounded good.

for me where i work - we lower our tone - move out of swing range - can you do that? keep out of range? what would she do then? hold her at arms length? and we try to distract them wiht somthing they like - a family picture - a hobby - sounds ridiculous when someone at my work is smashing things to start saying hey what about the football game on saturday - but it works a lot of the time and the picture is good - just no glass frames ok - maybe a pic of her mum and dad if you have one and she was happy then

what does make her happy ?

gives you a big hug cos ..well just cos you are you