For me, really understanding that my T loves me has helped me start to believe that I am capable of being loved, and that maybe, MAYBE other people could love me too.

I was married to my H for 17 years and I didn't believe he loved me at ALL. I thought he liked me, maybe, and liked having me around, but truly NEVER thought that he actually loved me. The more I felt T's love for me, the more I started wondering if I was wrong...if maybe my H loves me after all. And you know what? He DOES. He always has. But I grew up believing I was so fundamentally unlovable that I could not believe that ANYONE could love me. And I thought that if someone SAID they loved me, it really meant 'I am going to hurt you".

I trust my T probably more than anyone in the world. We've spent hundreds of hours together over the past 4 years. When he says he loves me, I BELIEVE him. He loves me and is safe and will never hurt me. And that is allowing me to believe that other people might actually love me too...like, REALLY love me.

Learning that I can be loved is absolutely one of the most important and good things that have come out of my therapy.