Sorry, Terry, that isn't going to happen. Unfortunately, Mrs. Ygrec just isn't up to seriously re-examining her feelings towards her parents. She's moving on towards accepting her own death, which is a very hard thing for many people. As part of that development, it's obvious to me that she wants to think as well as possible of her mother and her father. Long ago in the past she shared with me her very negative feelings about them. But, unfortunately, she's not a person who's comfortable thinking in terms of "grays". It's black or white for her.

And where she is in her journey right now, she very much wants to forgive and love her parents, which for her means downright denial of whatever bad things they may have done. I remember only too clearly her really deep feelings, long ago, about not getting Christmas presents when she was tiny, because dad had blown all the money, and about strange men beating on the door of their house trying to get money that dad owed them for gambling debts. She knew that then. And, of course, somewhere she knows that now.

But now is not the time to deal with those memories or feelings. I've made, myself, my peace with death (I think), but she has not. It's rougher for her. I don't know why, but that's the truth. I want to cooperate and help her in that development in whatever way I can. When you're our age "peace with death" is probably of number one importance. Thank you! Take care!