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Oct 11, 2011, 05:42 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2011
Location: USA
Posts: 12,857
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((((Open Eyes))))
When you talk about how there won't be a presence in the room who you can trust, I really feel for you. I was once in a legal jam and I had an attorney who cared about me like I was his daughter. Oh, the comfort of that was wonderful.
Later in life, I had interactions with lawyers, where I found that they had agendas that were not all about my welfare. Once, I decided to do the OPPOSITE of what a lawyer advised me to do, and the outcome made me darn glad I did.
I am really sorry you can not feel secure in your relationship with your attorney. I wish you could have an attorney like the one I described in the first paragraph above.
If you display emotional distress at the deposition, might that not be seen as evidence of how adversely affected you were by the negligence of the other party? Maybe, you might even say at the deposition that it is difficult for you to recount things that were traumatic for you to witness? I've never been to a deposition. I'm no expert. I just think that you would have a right to make a statement about the stress that was inflicted on you.
When I think about therapy, I compare it to medical treatment for the body. I say there are chronic problems and there are ACUTE problems. For you, Open Eyes, the Complex PTSD is a chronic problem. The issue with the legal proceedings causes acute distress. I have found that therapists tend to want to focus on what is chronic, at the expense of what is acute. In a medical setting we tend to see the ACUTE issue as taking precedence over the chronic issues. I think it might be good if therapists took that view more often.
I am hoping for you, Open Eyes. You have a very wonderfully wired brain. You have such capacity for perception and reflection and . . . . well, you have a very good mind. Yes, the brain can have some scar tissue here and there, and some lesions, but I think the mind and soul can override those deficits. I think you are already doing that everyday in your daily life. You are a very capable thinker. That remains true even when you are in pain, emotionally. You must tell yourself that.  From Rose
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