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Oct 11, 2011, 08:38 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2011
Location: USA
Posts: 12,874
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Open Eyes,
That was very wise to look up info on depositions. Just from reading what you learned, I feel like I would know better what to do, if I had to go to one.
Your past, truly, is not the business of anyone in that room. But I must ask you something very sincerely. Even if you had been the product of an ideal childhood, would you not still have been traumatized to discover the aftermath of what happened? I don't even want to specify anything, because it is so sad to suggest the images. A simple statement of the facts, as I've come to know them from your posts, conveys a tragic scene. Those facts don't need to be embellished with emotionalism. Just a bare bones statement of the harm that was done should be very powerful. A deposition is about FACTS, not emotions, as you correctly explain above. Hard as it is to revisit that tragic scene, keep in mind that the FACTS testify to the truth of what you experience. Those facts that are the saddest to describe are what must be recorded in that deposition.
Use every opportunity that is given to you to get the facts about the harm done expressed accurately and vividly. Your attorney should be really leading you to do this most effectively. Just in case he has his head up his butt, it may be on you to be the best witness to the TRUTH that you know how to be. YOU CAN DO IT. And you can do it well. Always remember that we are given the Grace to get through an ordeal when we are there and not ahead of time. You might just surprise the heck out of yourself. It has happened to me times that I would never, never have expected it. Sometimes, you just haul your body to a place where you are supposed to be and think "Oh, well, if I get my body there, maybe there is a slim chance that my mind will follow." Often that chance ends up being not so slim after all. Maybe it's best to think: "My main job is to show up at the room where I'm supposed to go and sit where they direct me to sit. I will be respectful. I will speak truthfully. If I become upset, I will state that I am having some difficulty, but want to continue as best I can." May sleep give you rest from your cares. 
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