NCsweetheart...He may be ashamed of his past but he does tell me that it was awful so why would he want to talk about it and relive it. I tell him so he can get it off his chest and hopefully that will help him and I could help. Although it doesn't work. My husband is not a talker either. Sometimes it feels like I'm pulling teeth to get him to talk.

TerryL...My husband is very computer savy. If he really wanted he could find this website or others like it very easily. I think he just tries to push it to the back of his mind as much as possible. We're doing good now but who knows what and when he will be triggered again. I hate to think about it because it's very stressful and emotionally draining.