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Oct 12, 2011, 01:31 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2010
Location: Indy
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I think that is the longest post I've ever read . I don't blame you though. You had a lot to get out. now prepare for the longest answer you've ever read . This is just an opinion and a humble one at that but... I would tell the kids.
If you want to wait until your schooling is finished just incase they blow up that should be fine. What I'm basing this on is personal experiences(mine and friends). I always hated it when my parents lied to me about anything. I also considered withholding truth a lie. Two of my friends were very hurt by their moms not telling them their dads were dating again. They were ticked about them dating but directed it more at their moms because of the withholding of information. One found out because a girl at school told her that her dad was out with some trailer trash *****(apparently the lady had dated her dad as well so she had hard feelings towards her) and the other friend found out when she saw her dad out on a date with his new friend. Both went home and told their moms and both blew a gasket when their moms said I know I just didn't know how to tell you. I think the sooner you can tell them the better but I can see why you don't want more stress as you finish your schooling. Also whether it lasts or fizzles the kids with have to get used to their father not being with you. It will hurt. At least it really did my one friend. She said the way she saw it her dad not only replaced her mom but their family. She said it was like he couldn't wait to be rid of them and she refused to see him anymore. You know your kids and their personalities. If it really makes you uncomfortable to tell them then don't but be prepared for fallout when they do find out. It may be they will respect why you didn't tell them and thank you for trying to protect them or they could go the other way. Unfortunately there's no way to know what course is best. I've given my opinion for what it's worth. Ultimately the decision is yours. Listen to your heart and do what you feel is best. I hope it all works out for you. Good Luck!
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