Hi Mykids,

Wow you have a lot going on. But there is one thing I must tell you now and that is that alcoholics don't need a reason to drink, they just invent them to give them the crutch they need to continue with the habit.

You may have your own issues there and I think you see them rather clearly, though I understand your pain and sadness as well as your anger. Your daughter is sensible and probably already knows it's over, but doesn't want to upset you or the other kids.

I think the main thing is to continue the counselling so that you don't get lost in that anger. You don't have to forgive what he has done, but maybe one day you can forgive him as a person.

It is my opinion only that he is with this woman because she enables his addiction to alochol they have that in common. Believe me that will be a volatile relationship in the end. He may even come back to you for help, if he does that is your choice as to what you choose to do.

Keep talking MeandMyKids! It is one of the most cathartic healing processes there is.

Blessings