I am looking to see if someone out there can help me with something that has been building as a problem in my life, and I'm not sure exactly if it's normal or exactly what can be done about it.

I'm 33, in a happy marriage with two kids, ages 2 and 4. I take meds for Adult ADD, and feel that the meds typically help a great deal. I am a teacher and highly successful coach, and typically stay pretty busy.

Lately, I've been feeling almost suffocated, and while driving home from work it dawned on me that literally, I had not spent a minute of time by myself for over nine months. My wife works third shift, 2-3 days a week, and between kids at home and kids to coach, I had not spent a minute to myself over the better part of the year.

As I paid more attention to it, it seems as if some people have as much as at least an hour a day, in some cases several hours. I don't know what a healthy balance is and have no idea what to look for. Since discussing it with my wife, she's twice taken the kids to a park for an hour on Sundays. It's been a fraction of what I feel I need, but honestly I don't know if I'm even experiencing something that is rational. I think it is, but don't know.

I've become unproductive when trying to get ahead, and find myself staring at a computer screen. It's been as bad or worse the two times that I've had about an hour to do work at home, and now, I don't feel comfortable when I'm just simply trying to spend time with my kids or relax.

For anyone who as any ideas, advice, or input, I guess I'd like ot know the following....

1. Is this normal, or am I being neurotic.
2. If it is normal, how much time would be reasonable to ask for and how much is normally needed (time to self)
3. If I'm unable to get time for myself, is there anything I can do to try to cope?

Thanks...look forward to seeing people's ideas.