I've experienced one rupture so far, and I can't tell you how painful it was. I cried for two days, tears of hurt. I felt so wounded. For those two days I never wanted to see him again. But I'm fully committed to this T and I refused to give up. In the next session, it was incredibly difficult to tell him what I experienced. I was shaking like a leaf, and barely able to talk. I've never been in that bad a shape before. He told me what I experienced was "a rupture in the therapeutic bond." After we talked about it I felt better, but still highly suspicious of him. But the upshot of all this was that I learned SO MUCH about myself. I over-reacted to a ridiculous degree, and I learned something (felt the emotion) about what I'm so afraid of. It was a real step forward, and everything with T was back to normal within two weeks. Some steps forward are so easy, and others are incredibly painful.

In real life, would you end a good romantic relationship, or a close friendship, because of a misunderstanding? We need to work these things out in RL, and I don't think the therapeutic relationship is any different. There are going to be bumps in the road, and our T's aren't perfect, as much as we want them to be.

Not sure if your experience is similar to mine, but I hope it works out. Good luck.