I want him in my life. He has asked me to help him sober up, I just do not know how to do that. Aside from not allowing him to get drinks and such. But even then I can't hover and caudal him, it is his decision to get sober, he has to want it. As far as mine and my daughters life, I want him in it, and I want all of us to be financially stable, through with school and able to take family vacations. I want to get married, build a house, and live the "American Dream".