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Originally Posted by Perna
You may not want to make it so you unconsciously orchestrated being late so you could quit therapy  What happens isn't about your therapist, it's your therapy and under your direction.
I'd call/get in contact with your T, in person, rather than wait to see if he gets in contact with you, make another appointment, etc. or tell him you will not be returning because you don't wish to work with therapy anymore, get his one-on-one viewpoint instead of guessing by e-mail return/no return where he might stand.
Presumably, you knew you were going late before you were; I would have pulled over and called T to let him know? It's a joint effort, therapy; being late is one thing but not letting your "partner" know shows you don't care either? You could have solved it on the phone, rescheduled then or asked him to wait, etc.? |
I didn't have my cell phone with me, as I often don't. I don't really believe in being a connected 24x7 person.
Your first sentence didn't make sense.
I don't agree with you about assuming it doesn't mean anything if he doesn't respond in this situation. In most other relationships in life, if someone showed that level of detachment, it wouldn't be appropriate for me to keep bothering them, unless I just wanted to use them to get something from them and really wanted to be demanding - not really caring about my relationship with them. I don't think it should be okay for therapists to be more detached than anyone else.
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Originally Posted by SoupDragon
Think your T should only bill you for 15 minutes, as it sounds like you arrived after 15 minutes for the other 45 minutes of your appointment and your T wan't there. If your T wants to bill you for the hour, then where was he when you were there waiting? You missed 15 minutes but he missed 45 minutes - you could have been late for a whole host of reasons.
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Good point. My guess is he couldn't quickly respond to my email since he only has his text message gadget in that office, and then he forgot about it or didn't feel like it. So I don't suppose he'll remember to bill me. I don't know if he could submit it to insurance since we didn't meet. But if he does try to bill me I will say something.