I am frustrated. I've dated a few guys, and recently broke up with the last one after nearly a year.

What's frustrating is as soon as I express what I want - they disappear. I don't think it's asking too much to really be in a commitment with someone to understand what my needs are, because Lord knows I've accommodated them!

Why do they tell me they love me when they really aren't? I think that is what I'm most heart-broken about. The last one lied to my face repeatedly about loving me, only to run when I told him I needed him.

Scenario - I was sick. Really sick. I called him and he asked who could help me. Since I live alone, there isn't anyone. He asked if I could call a friend or my family to help, but I couldn't because of my nephew. I didn't want a family member exposed to whatever I had that could get my baby nephew sick. Begrudingly, he comes over, and leaves as soon as he can.

I was heart-broken. Within the next few days we talked about what we both wanted and needed, and he made it clear that he can't be there for me.

Although we didn't officially break up, it's been almost a month with no phone call from him. This happened with a guy I dated prior to him. He told me he loved me, and then he simply disappeared.

Why does this happen? I just don't understand why someone would be so cruel. I know in my heart that I didn't do anything wrong. Is it so wrong to be open and honest in a supposed relationship as to what you want?