I'm one of the 'right' guys all the way from holding open the door for you to not swearing. Let me tell you, it's the loneliest thing I've ever committed to in my life. You as a woman have probably been raised sub-consciously to be attracted to the wrong guys because lets face it, the 'wrong guys' are the guys that end up shoving their way to the top of the business ladder.

Look.... if you want to find a good guy you're going to have to look hard and you're going to have to allow yourself time to grow on him. And if he really is a 'good guy' then you're going to need to be entirely open and honest about your intentions from the start. Any guy worth a second of your time is probably so hurt trust wise that he won't be willing to be open and honest with you unless you are with him --> and he'll accommodate you not the other way around. He should value you.