The definition of a 'man' is not exactly how I define myself, but i understand how it can be taken that way. It's more complicated than my sexual identity. I just happen to be the male in my marriage. My wife feels like she is the one letting me down in our current situation. This is far from the truth. She made a small mistake at her job that as I said is being blown way out of proportion. When I lost my good job two years ago it was over some major stuff that went wrong. A lot of it was not my fault directly, but as a supervisor I was responsible. I just know that if things had worked out properly my wife could go back to school and leave this job that leaves her miserable everyday and find something more to her liking. Yes, I know that VERY few people actually like their job, but it's a lot better to try and find one that you do like than to be put on meds by her Dr. and suffer through the misery every day. Yes, my wife is on some meds. And occasionally I snatch one from her bottle. Somedays there really is no choice in the matter for me. I know I'm breaking all kinds of pharmaceutical rules, but honestly I don't care. If it's what I need to get through a night, than it's what I need to get through.