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Originally Posted by Ygrec23
I understand your feelings, Squiggle, but I don't share them. I'm absolutely committed to understanding and working through all the bad stuff from the distant past. If my T wasn't willing to work with me on that I'd find another T who would. I honestly believe that MY daily things won't change without that kind of "in-depth" treatment. You perhaps can do such a thing. I very much doubt I could.
It would be different for me if my "hang-ups" didn't severely interfere with basic life occupations. And if my terror and anxiety didn't still dominate a major portion of my life. Frankly, I would enjoy being in your position, where talking about everyday things would be sufficient. Bottom line: we're all quite different and have to make our choices based on our own circumstances.
So, provided always that you're not fooling yourself in some way, and provided that such a decision makes sense for you (conscious and unconscious), I myself couldn't see a problem with the change you propose. Of course, whatever your T has to say outweighs anything I say here by a million times. Hope this helps! Take care.  |
My problem is that when I go into therapy, I tend to feel that if I can't go into some really deep conversation, that the session was a failure. She is working with me to help me feel that it is okay to talk about something that happened today, yesterday, or a week ago. I tend to think unless I am in some state of extreme emotion, I didn't do any 'work' in that session.
Yes, we absolutely go back to my childhood, teens, young adult years. We go through heartches, disappointments, abusive relationships, etc....I just feel that I need a break from that right now. She tells me something like, "
We can take a break, but just know that we will come back and revisit those areas of your life that are still affecting you today."
I think she is trying to help me see that no matter how small the 'issue' is, it is not dumb, stupid, frivolous, unimportant, etc....for me to need to talk with her about it. I have a habit of 'shutting down' in therapy. This is because I either don't want to talk about something, or I don't think I have anything really that important to talk about.
For me, just being 'casual' for a little while is what I need. She agrees with me that this may be what we need to do at this point. If I can feel relaxed and comfortable in sessions, I think the really 'emotional/hard' stuff may come up on its own. I think it will surface when I least expect it. I overplan way too much. I need to let things happen a bit more naturally in sessions.