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Old Oct 13, 2011, 06:47 AM
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My therapy is a combination of both. Our primary focus is on working through issues from the past, which for me includes addressing triggers because many of my triggers stem from my childhood and early adulthood, but there are times when I really need help with everyday stresses so we address those issues also. Quite often we discover an overlap between the past and the present so it's not an either/or situation. We might begin with a pressing issue occurring in my life today and find that it's connected to events in the past, so I need to work on "here and now" solutions to handling it better while at the same time I need to work through the deeper issue at its roots.
And sometimes I just need a temporary break from the difficult, painful childhood issues because it affects my ability to function day to day when I feel overwhelmed by the intense emotions that resurface during deep work. So I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with asking for some help with everyday stresses. There really isn't a clearly defined line between "then and now" and it's often necessary to work on both the present and the past.
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Conversation with my therapist:

Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here."
Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here."
(Pause)
Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?"
Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall."

It's official. I can even make therapists crazy.