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Originally Posted by farmergirl
If you have seen this new T now for 8 months and this probably has not been an issue, why are you making it an issue? At some point you are going to have to stop "expecting" this new T to hurt you. Eight months is a pretty good length of time to start letting go of what the old T did to you and stop holding it over the new T's head. And by letting go, I don't mean you have to forget, but it is kind of like having a new significant other and not trusting the new relationship because of something that happened in the past with an old relationship. That's not fair to the new relationship/T. And it's not fair to yourself really. Do you work with your new T on exploring the lack of trust and the hurt that developed about therapy because of your past experience? I hope so. It will be hard to move forward in your therapy while you are still so stuck in the old experience. That really needs to be resolved in your mind somehow. I'm not sure taping with the expectation that you will have to prove your new T wrong, with the expectation that your T will inevitably hurt you, is a particularly healthy move.
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I only ended with the other t two weeks ago. And I don't think she hurt me as much as really frustrated me. The one I still have is not really new. The one I just quit was about a year and the one still going on is 8 months about. So they were not really that different in time especially. I kept meaning to pick one and never got around to it. I guess now I did choose. The reason I bring it up now is because I am just now starting to be as terrified of the second one as I was of the first. I am trying to be more proactive this time. The first one and I were in conflict from the start and I was terrified from the start. For some reason with the second one I was not. And by this I mean even before meeting them I was in high anxiety over the first but not as much the second.