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Originally Posted by vintageromance
If he could just communicate better, it'd help me out a lot
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That's not a good position to be in, hoping another will change to make us feel better?
What do you do while he's alone; do you have your own hobbies or things to interest you? I would not question him as much, would not question how he is feeling, what he is thinking when he clearly does not wish that and may find it annoying?
My husband and I spend most of the day at our individual computers, about 10 feet apart. Sometimes we even email each other

But each of us has our individual interests that we pursue, that are "ours" and not something the other person is interested in particularly.
Do you know things your husband does like? Mine has a problem with his left food that my massaging it can help with. So, sometimes I trade him massage time if he will read aloud to me. I tend to cook dinners that I know my husband likes but experiment too and try "new" meats/meals that have ingredients he likes but are arranged in a different way or are a different cut of meat, etc. When we go places where he wants to go, I try to facilitate his enjoyment. For example, last February we spent 4 weeks in Florida so I tried to add in things I thought he wanted while we were in Florida (I didn't particularly want to go to Florida, it was an interest of his) made the fact we were there of interest to me and tried to "round out" our experience.
Has your husband been to a doctor? He could be depressed, have a problem he'd talk to the doctor about but not want to "worry" you with? My husband and I go to the same doctor and have appointments at the "same" time though the doctor sees us each separately. Afterwards we go have breakfast together and then get our prescriptions, etc. See if you can work in ways to be "with" your husband? Mine naps every day and sometimes I nap too; first we read and then we nap :-)