If someone calls you a "dirty dog" you confront them right then, not later; it's often "natural" for people making mistakes to forget, literally; no one likes to suddenly learn that last week they said/did something wrong; it's like being drunk and not remembering what you did last night. How do such ongoing difficulties of what someone said earlier cause problems?
If my T seemed to be having difficulty remembering what I felt to be "facts", things I know I'd said or heard her say, I wouldn't stay with her, it would be too frustrating? But I wouldn't expect the "next" T to have that problem unless I had an ongoing problem of some sort. I know what I know.
You cannot shake my confidence in my memory; I know I have a good memory, I can even "prove" to you I have a good memory (when I was in group therapy and there was a dispute with another member, the group leaders would turn to me to "remember" the scene and refresh everyone's memory; I could remember who was sitting where, who said what, when, etc.). If you get in an argument with me about what is remembered, I'm going to lose interest in talking with you, no matter if you are my T or not.
However, I do keep an "opposite" ability with me, just for "fun". Without doubting myself, I can imagine, what if the other person is right? What if there is something wrong with me/my memory and it doesn't work the way I think it does? I can suspend judgment (sometimes :-) and pretend I'm in "The Twilight Zone" and see if that shows me anything helpful to me. That's the key, helpful to me.
So, why are you worried that the "next", your current T has the same problem your previous T had? That says to me that you aren't quite confident in an ability of your own of some sort, are second-guessing yourself.
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