Wow I can't believe I found this. Its been a year and a half since I started this and I don't even remember posting on here. Thank you for all the responses. Just a update, my ex wife was involved with a man from work, moved in with him shortly after the divorce and they are now married. She is better with the children, actually she has moved on as though nothing ever happened. I haven't had any communication with her but I hear bits and pieces from the kids. Time is helping, along with my faith and good friends, but I still have a way go. I came to this forum looking for help on depression and found this post. Thanks again to all who posted. Maybe I will be able to help someone else going through this.